1. What does this really mean?
It is knowing and believing that everything that has happened and is happening in your life is working out for your greatest good, provided of course that you have the right mindset/ attitude and that you are putting in the effort and energy necessary to get the life you want. This applies to all the different parts of your life – relationships, work, family, health etc.
2. Why is this so?
Sometimes in life we are faced with hardships/ dead ends – you lose your job, you don’t get accepted to the university you applied to, you are forced to relocate to a foreign country, you lose your home, your current living circumstances are not ideal and so on. We go through such experiences, not because we are bad people, but because there are lessons we need to learn from them. Through these lessons we grow, rise above them and carry on with life – stronger, wiser, happier and with a better understanding of how to reach to our goals.
Similarly, we attract certain people into our lives – some good and some bad. The good people help us, support us, cheer us on and live life with us. Sometimes, relationships that initially seemed positive go sour – friendships, romantic relationships, family members and/or work colleagues begin to show a different side of them and then it all goes downhill from there. At times, we seem to find only negative people around us.
When it comes to people in your life it is important to know this – when you attract certain people to you, the type of people they are and the way they treat you is telling you something about you. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you are like them, but it may mean that you have a certain belief about people in general. For example, you may believe that the world is full of bad people and/or everyone is out to get you. It is a direct reflection of what you believe and how you feel on the inside. If you are not happy with the kind of people you are surrounded by, you must first change something on the inside.
3. How can I apply this information to get the results I want?
If you are in a situation that is not ideal for you – think about why you are in it. For example, if you are not finding the ideal job, think about why that is so.
– Do you believe you are not ready?
If you believe you are not, then you will not approach the opportunity with confidence and the employer will sniff that out in just one meeting.
Lesson learned: what you should be doing is getting the experience, qualifications and information you need to be ready. Having those things under your belt will surely give you the boost of confidence you need to nail the job interviews.
– Do you believe that you don’t deserve it?
If you believe this, then you are telling the Universe the same and subsequently shutting of all channels of receiving any potential opportunities that may lead to your ideal job.
Lesson learned: You must believe and affirm that you deserve this, simply by saying, “I deserve to have this opportunity. I have worked hard to get to where I am and have the qualifications to be in this position. I deserve to have my dream job!” Phrase the affirmations to suit your goals. Once you make this a habit, you will realize that a time will come when you stop getting those strange feelings in your gut after you say the affirmations – you know, the feelings that are saying, “hold on, this isn’t right, this doesn’t make sense”. You will find that your mind and body are freely accepting what you saying – which only means one thing: you truly believe that you deserve this and you will receive it accordingly.
When it comes to people in your life, ask yourself – what is it about my thoughts, beliefs and feelings that attracted these kinds of people? What happened so that this relationship went sour? Did I grow? Have I changed to the better? I am becoming more true to myself? Is it time for me to move on?
Lesson learned: You may find that people don’t respect you because you don’t have self respect. Or people treat you like you are not worthy of what you have because you believe that too. You may find yourself in an abusive relationship because you don’t love/ respect yourself and have low self worth. Once you realize what the problem is, begin working on it immediately! Use the posts from the ‘Notes to Self’ Instagram account to give yourself daily positive/ effective self talk. Also, take the time to write these notes to yourself – never underestimate the power of the written word – it’s like planting a seed in a garden.
Regardless of what you are going through, always ask yourself – what is it that I need to know to fix this, or get this or that? Ask yourself before you sleep, when you wake up, when you’re driving to work – whenever you can. You are the only one who knows what’s right for you and the answers will always surface when you need them. Also, the Universe has a funny way of reaching you – you may find a random person giving you a piece of information that’s turns out to be the missing piece of the puzzle. Or you see something on TV or the newspaper that jump out at you. The answer will come to you.
Just believe that everything is working out for your greatest good and trust me, everything will eventually fall into place and make a lot of sense :0)
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Notes to self, with love Xx